Location: Mesquite, Nevada
Date: January 2018
You all are probably thinking I titled this post because of the rather beautiful trees and uncharacteristically lush vegetation found in these pictures. And by the word’s primary definition, you’d be entirely correct.
1. a fertile spot in a desert where water (in this case a river) is found.
But- where you see pretty trees- I see my imperfectly perfect best friend. And in my life, she is MY OASIS.
2. something (and in my case, someone) serving as a refuge, relief, or pleasant change from what is usual, annoying, difficult, etc.
In order to see her the way I see her, you have to first know a bit of our story.
My husband had just graduated from college and we took a year off to apply to physical therapy school. So we packed up our small apartment’s worth of belongings and moved in with his parents in Mesquite, Nevada. What I didn’t know is that I was pregnant with our first child…
So- I was in a new (old to my husband, it’s where he grew up) city, assistant managing a movie theatre, pregnant, with a cabinet-installing fool of a husband when I realized how truly lonely I was. I had to go to the hospital to take the big-bad glucose test when I realized that I didn’t want to go to another appointment or test alone- especially not one that involved a needle. I called none other than my brother-in-law’s ex-high school girlfriend- who was also pregnant with her first at the time- to tag along. (It sounds funny/awkward when I put it into words but it’s something our minds rarely turn to now- 4 years later.) She was so kind to say yes that day. The test ended up being neither big nor bad because she was by my side. I know it sounds sappy but it’s also very true.
We continued on very much the way we began. We found comfort and relief in each other. Even after our babies were born, we were always breastfeeding side by side by day and texting about our new-motherhood worries and woes by night. Little did we know that my husband would get accepted to a physical therapy school half way across the country.
This was one of the hardest months of my life. We were packing U-Haul pods intermingled with giving 2-week notices at our jobs and making last minute visits to family- all the while I was never able to think about having to leave her. (You know what her I’m talking about.)
Fast forward 4 years- or this post is going to take you all days to read.
All you need to know if that somewhere in between then and now she helped me to happily and sanely raise my daughter, love and support my husband through graduate school, and start my very own photography business.
I found myself behind my camera- not unusual- taking pictures for the Hughes Family. Oh yeah- “her” name is Carmina HUGHES.
I was a little nervous but mostly excited because it really was a dream come true to take her family pictures. She had grown and changed so much since I last saw her (December 2016). My favorite thing about my time with this family was being able to see all the parts and pieces of her that I love the most in her adorable kids.
I am lucky and blessed to call her my best friend- my oasis- as I have made it through so many triumphant and turbulent times with her by my side.